Tempting Yet Ineffective Parenting Traps

✔ Trying to convince your kid to do better by:

• Explaining

• Repeating

• Moralizing

• Lecturing

• Pleading

• Cajoling

• Yelling

• Criticizing

• Overtalking

• Being right

✔ Inconsistent limits

✔ Over-engaging (taking the youngster’s bait)

✔ Co-dysregulating (staying engaged when emotionally flooded)

✔ Threatening punishment

✔ Over-Punishing

✔ Overcontrol

✔ Overprotection

✔ Attempts to fix your child’s emotions

✔ Psychoanalyzing your child

✔ Walking on eggshells/ a sense that the child is holding the family emotionally “hostage”